"The little green lie" The power of femininity by Michelle McKinney

from the book....
"Because of the woman's deception,some things in the garden were about to change. From this day forth, she would feel the pain of child birth,a pain that she had caused God to feel when she wrentched herself from His protective womb to become master of her own destiny. Because the scripture in Gen3:16 is often used in the "submission" debate, I would like to shed further light on this curse that affected all woman. This scripture is not about position or submission. If that were the case, single woman would have been exempt from the curse. This scripture is about the state of the fallen heart... Man was responsible for covering and leading the woman from the beginning. But know any woman, married or single, would find herself always striving to have man bend to her will. She would seek to grasp total fulfillment from man, to receive complete affirmation from him, but she would achieve this fulfillment because no human being could be her completion. In other words, the curse caused the heart of a woman to say to man, "I need you to be willing to do anything for me, including disobeying God if that's what it takes to make me feel loved, desired, worthy and fulfilled." The fall the God-given desire in her heart for man to be perverted into a need for all the wrong reasons. Man could never live up to thevoid the fall created, so woman's exaggerated need for man became her bondage. Her desire for him would know "rule" over her and colour all her decsions as she constantly strove to gain his love in a spot reserved for God alone. On the other han, though God reated them as partners......"
and the book gets interesting
arouses thoughts...

Today I dresses like crazy.I wore 3/4 trousers with long white socks and shoes that show the socks.it looked weird but for some reason I loved it.the way I looked and felt.(they are related in some way.how you think you look and how you feel)I like suprising people and myself.i don't like being put in a box.it felt good,it puts me in a position where I can say ...' you know,I really don't care what people say'.For some reason I have this rebelling spirit with expectations.Sometimes I like it but I just love variety.Variety in what I wear,in how I feel in how people relate to me.Its fun

Everything good is hard work!!!Its not easy but once you've made the decision to do so you have direction.all the good things in life like friendship, marriage and dating (which is ore hard work - marriage or dating?); a selfless life where you die to self consciousness and just let Jesus live through you (the good ones are hard work cause you just got to be honest and that can be hard work
its all hard work and that's life but it is so good!!Its just the decision to do so that makes the direction clear

Will we be married in Heaven or the New Earth?

"Gen 1 : 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib and brought her to Adam. 23 "At last!" Adam exclaimed. "She is part of my own flesh and bone! She will be called 'woman,' because she was taken out of a man." 24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.25 Now, although Adam and his wife were both naked, neither of them felt any shame. "
The end will be like the begining.I look at this and see that God said for this reason - to get married- they shall leave home to be united.This was before the fall of man.Before Adam sinned God said that he made woman so she can be one with her husband.So after this life,will we be married on the New Earth?Or will we have close relationships with everyone there that as a community we will be one like Adam and Eve became one?
Another question,will we have babies in heaven or on the New Earth?When mankind sinned,God said to Eve Gen3 : 16 He told the Woman: "I'll multiply your pains in childbirth; you'll give birth to your babies in pain. You'll want to please your husband, but he'll lord it over you." God said her child bearing will be painful - intense pain.He didn't say that she'll start giving birth or start having babies.
I dont get the second part of that verse about her desire will be for her husband.I guess its probably like...when girls grow up they play "mommy and daddy" and all sorts of games that prepare her for marriage or her husband.From childhood her nature is to this - to be a mommy(playing with her barbie), a care giver(when playing mommy and daddy games),to enjoy cooking(helping her mother bake cookies)....and the list goes on.Was that the result of sin that her desire will be for her husband or was it that her husband will be her master?
I have another question "Now Adam knew Eve his wife, and she conceived and bore Cain" will (if there is marriage) will there be that kind of "knowing" your man or woman or will it be like a deep friendship that we will know each other so much.This was only mentioned after the fall.

why be a virgin or why not have sex

I was thinking about this.so why dont I want to have sex? Yes, because i beleive God designed sex to be in a certain context .Fair enough, but there's got to be more.I can’t just say I’m not having sex cause God says so...actually, that should be enough.anyway why dont I want to have sex?as life progressed I placed more and more value on abstinence and that was from God.It became my baby.I began to place value on it.It did feel like a gift and it was mine.My greatest gift,my holy of holies.My most valued gift.A man can offer you strength and this one thing i offer is beauty -the deepest part of me.what i offer is forever,its my all in all which i will give to my husband.The world tells you its a sad thing or that something is wrong with you,the world has just cheapened sex and abstinence. There were times when I thought a certain way or did stuff that made me cheapen the value of virginity and that was the enemy causing me to devalue myself and my gift.so why am I not having sex?Its a gift I look forward to giving to my husband.All these years I have tried to protect it.I have worked hard to keep this.It is so valuable to me!My husband is the only one worthy of this gift just the fact that he is my husband makes him worthy of it.This has became my baby,my pride and joy if you like.Its something I really value and I never valued it outside of God.So imagine, something that you most value in the world,its a part of you.Most valued part of you.If I am able to give this to my husband just because he is my husband (and yes i'll love him!).If I am able to give this to him,what else could I not give him.I want him to know that.I gave him the thing I value so what else wont I give him.Thats why I dont want to have sex because I want him to know that there's nothing I cant give him.I want to have that kind of love with my husband. I dont want to have sex because I want to have that kind of love.