Identity Part1

I am in Christ. my identity is in Him.
I love Him because He first loved me. He found me, saw me, loved me just as I am, got rid of all the things that trap me, His love was cleansing and I felt brand new. He gave me a new identity, I no longer need to be trapped by the things of this world. He gave me a new confidence. He is my rock, my refuge and strong tower. My help, ever present in every moment, He lifts my head especially when it is down. My security. I love that I can run to God and He is always there, He knows what I'm going to say before I say it. He understand not only because He sees and knows all things, but because He feels what I'm feeling. We sit in silence together and He covers me with His arm of love.

If I have confidence, it's because of the security I have in Christ. He loves me and He's always available. (boy do I sound selfish, it's al about me huh!)
If there's anything that gives me boldness, it is His love for me. His constant, unchanging love for me. That He cares so much for only me that He would make Himself available to me by dieing for me. That He would colour the sunset and sunrise just for me. That He see's me and all that's in His mind is a spotless beautiful bride.
God loves me. Jesus loves me and He has shown it over and over again. He assures me of His love for me and I am greatful.

This love gives me confidence, identity, assurance and ability to do whatever He asks. Sometimes I struggle "God I want to do what you ask but I feel scared, maybe threatened and insecure. I need you to love me. I need more of your love so I can do all things" He loves me and then I feel that I can do it. His love washes away all the bad stuff like fear etc

Sometimes what we say in words can achieve much more than a spiritual act of prayer

We, as humans have a power, not "the power", but a power to heal the people around us. the closest to the further st of them by our love and wisdom. real love is wise and wisdom radiates love.

What we say and do can speak volumes in peoples lives. If you take the scenario were a father left the home and the children were young. This changes the life of the young one forever. This point in their lives will probably determine how they relate to men, woman, themselves, issues of self esteem and identity issues.
When a father leaves, the child could either see it as their fault and there for see it as a rejection. "My father left because he didnt love me, it's my fault..."etc. The opposite reaction could occur when the young one just decides, as a result of the father leaving, that people are mean,evil, they are not trust worthy. And in their adult life, they may grow up with bitterness and resentment. Never able to trust anyone and essential believe that they are alone in this world. Or they may grow up with identity issues, always changing who they are to please people, or even sleeping around with different men/woman to receive a sense of love, or acceptance, or being wanted.

Now all this is a result of one mans action and maybe a few words which were repeated.
So if this one negative action results in such a reaction... this says something about the power that people have. Which may be more powerful than a spiritual act.
LOVE is the most powerful of acts. The abundance of will bring life and the lack of will bring death or sense of mourning.

If the someone you love is rejecting you, or if you want to make a difference in someone's life and all your efforts are not resulting in anything much, then change your approach! Dont inflict your language or expectation on them but, learn their language of love ;)

The difference between God and Man

If you get to know God, you realise that you'd prefer Him to any other person ever.

God is love; Man is human

Communication -God knows all; Mankind assumes he knows
Have you ever been in a conversation where you felt that you weren't been understood. Felt like you weren't being herd? Sometime we have to explain the context or where we coming from before communicating what we really want to say.And by that point you've probably given up? Or maybe you say something and it's been misunderstood, taken in another way and now, you're in trouble. You feel like saying "You had to be there" or even you have to be me to understand.Be inside my head. After all, 90% of meaning is not in words (i.e. how we communicate).

With God, He already knows what happened, how that was translated to your point of view and how it affects you. So you can just start of by saying what ever you want without causing offence. "He's inside your head so He understands!

Advice - facilitate vs direction
I think it can be a male female thing sometimes. Men give advice, woman give support?

What if every human being has inside of them, the answer but doesnt know how to bring it out? Woman work on this basis. They have a conversation about the feeling, perceptions...the list goes on. When a woman speaks about her worries, she is essentially asking for support so that she can paint a picture e.g. why do i feel this way. If she wants advice she'll only ask at the end of this process, when she's ready.
I think about the people that I, as a woman, feel have given me the good advise. Or people that I hold in high regard because I feel they are somewhat wise. And also that they care more about me than the situation. They were people who listened, understood and then simply said a word. For a woman, everything matters and therefore time needs to be taken and everything considered. The same could be said about her sexual nature?

My little knowledge of the male brain when it comes to this... Im guessing the focus is on the solution. eg This is the problem, these are the solution, you should take this option.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think woman often feel that when a man gives advise, he is essentially telling you what to do. This is probably because when he asks for advise, he is essentially saying "tell me what to do".
And when a man hears a problem, his automatic response is "this is the solution". They dont like talking about it over and over again, they want to move on to the next challenge. Man are strategists. Which angle/strategy produces maximum output. The same could be said about his sexual nature?
When a man asks for advise from a woman, she often paint a picture but doesn't necessarily point out the direction or the angle.

So there is usually a conflict between the sexes
I think a man asking a woman for advise would get frustrated that she doesnt give him that definitive answer. It's more of a "trust your feelings/instincts" kinda answer.
A woman speaking to a man might feel shut down. "He didnt explore the different facets." And then the "advice" comes across as a command which she may be offended by because she may feels that she's been deceived i.e. you say it's advice but really, you're telling me what to do.

In general, in a male female relationship, if you think about parents or other couples in a healthy relationship, woman are often facilitators and men usually know what they want (vision)?

God does both. He is a balanced being when it come to this. Sometimes how you feel is more important than the solution because it exposes something about you e.g. your insecurities. And other times, you need to produce that maximum output. Timing is everything, and God knows how to deal with individuals. God facilitates and gives vision

There are so many others to speak of such as what is true or Truth, Love, Meaning... etc etc

Glossary= what I mean

God= a loving, all knowing, all powerful being that has a personality

Feel= To feel. This can be replaced with the word perceive or discern

Men vs Woman= I used extreme ends of the scale in order to make the fundamental difference but sometimes we operate like each other.