Jack in the BOX

Don’t you hate being put in a box? When people give you limitations and assume that they know it when they don’t? Define how wide or high the box should be and then when their done, close it off and put it to the side.People would put me in a box and I only revealed the aspects of me that they expected, most times this was not even a conscious decision. The aspects of me that were outside the box, I shared with those who didn’t need a box.Sometimes people put things and others into a box in order to learn and understand. You take a concept (by doing this, you take it out of its environment and into a box). You look, study and perhaps scrutinize it in order to understand it. And then once you’ve understood it, you put the lid on.I’ve herd people say that they can know what a person is like after talking to them for 5mins. I think this is a bit arrogant.

People often show you what you want to see. They have the power to do so. They have a normal self which they want to be associated with and then they have a side to them that they only show to their close friends, another side that they only show to their family, another side that they show to their lover, another to their role model or people their admire etc. and this is appropriate.I’ve often herd people who’ve dated for ages and then got married that, they discovered or were shocked/surprised and didn’t know that their spouse had this certain trend.It’s good to put things in a box but because we are only human and prophesy in part, we should never put a lid on the box but let it be free. Take what you’ve learn and seen as truth but then realized that we are human and can never have the whole truth. This way we are less surprise, offended etc that people don’t xyz. Often people tell you things to make you feel good or to not cause you hurt, unless they want to harm you.There was a man named Jesus and the people in His town who assumed to know Him most, put Him in a box. As a result nothing much happened in that town. He was said to be the savior of the world, the Messiah, even this man Jesus could not do much because they put Him in the box by limiting him to their definition of who he is. He didn’t even put up a fight but simply said that they were limiting Him by putting Him in a box.I’ve learned to be careful not to think that I know it all. I even look forward to the thing that shows me that I don’t know it all but that doesn’t prevent me from seeking to know.

It’s so much easier to deal with people when you realize that they only speak the truth in part and this is normal. Not only that, but we only hear in part. Our understanding of what is said is marked by our experience. It’s also easier to deal with people because you don’t judge their character and get too frustrated. Do not scoff at what is said or surprises you, but test everything that is said and hold on to what is good. 1Thes5:19-21; 1Cor8:2

the writing on the wall

"A child is not likely to find a father in God unless he finds something of God in his father."

Wisdom has two parts:
1) Having a lot to say.
2) Not saying it.

"When God measures a man He puts the tape around the heart, not the head."

"The strongest human instinct is to impart information, the second strongest is to resist it."

"We tend to worry most over things we have least control over."

"A church that has no problems is probably paralyzed."

"Shadows are more fierce than reality. Always check the facts."

"We are not human beings on a spiritual journey, but we are spiritual beings on a human

"There are two ways to live your life One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."journey."

"When you say a situation or a person is hopeless, you are slamming the door in the face of God."

"To the world you might be one person, but to one person you might be the world."

"Your actions speak so loud, I can´t hear what you´re saying"

"People prefer to follow those who help them, not those who intimidate them."

"Humility is confidence properly placed."

"We need the power of love in the church; not the love of power."

"Some things just take time. Nine women cannot make a baby in one month."

"It all works out in the end. If it has not worked out, it is not the end."

"Nobody is born with arrogance, they cultivate it along the way!"

"One mother can take care of ten children, but ten children can't take care of one mother. "

"Adversity introduces a man to himself. "

"Someone cannot merely be the Love of your life, they must be the Life of your love"

"If each one sweeps before his own door, the whole street is clean."

"People need love, especially when they don't deserve it".

" A budget is a theological document. It indicates who or what we worship."

"Love is like the five loaves and two fishes. It doesn't start to multiply until you give it away."

"Pride is a weird disease It makes everyone sick, except the person who has it"

"A holy life will produce the deepest impression. Lighthouses blow no horns; they only shine."

"A reputation once broken may possibly be repaired, but the world will always keep their eyes on the spot where the crack was."

"It's not what they say about you; it's what they whisper."

"Some people pay a compliment as if they expect a receipt."

"Some pursue happiness—others create it.

"The key to a healthy marriage is to keep your eyes wide open before you wed — and half closed thereafter."

The farther a man knows himself to be from perfection, the nearer he is to it!

"Christmas began in the heart of God. It is complete only when it reaches the heart of man."

Identity Part1

I am in Christ. my identity is in Him.
I love Him because He first loved me. He found me, saw me, loved me just as I am, got rid of all the things that trap me, His love was cleansing and I felt brand new. He gave me a new identity, I no longer need to be trapped by the things of this world. He gave me a new confidence. He is my rock, my refuge and strong tower. My help, ever present in every moment, He lifts my head especially when it is down. My security. I love that I can run to God and He is always there, He knows what I'm going to say before I say it. He understand not only because He sees and knows all things, but because He feels what I'm feeling. We sit in silence together and He covers me with His arm of love.

If I have confidence, it's because of the security I have in Christ. He loves me and He's always available. (boy do I sound selfish, it's al about me huh!)
If there's anything that gives me boldness, it is His love for me. His constant, unchanging love for me. That He cares so much for only me that He would make Himself available to me by dieing for me. That He would colour the sunset and sunrise just for me. That He see's me and all that's in His mind is a spotless beautiful bride.
God loves me. Jesus loves me and He has shown it over and over again. He assures me of His love for me and I am greatful.

This love gives me confidence, identity, assurance and ability to do whatever He asks. Sometimes I struggle "God I want to do what you ask but I feel scared, maybe threatened and insecure. I need you to love me. I need more of your love so I can do all things" He loves me and then I feel that I can do it. His love washes away all the bad stuff like fear etc

Sometimes what we say in words can achieve much more than a spiritual act of prayer

We, as humans have a power, not "the power", but a power to heal the people around us. the closest to the further st of them by our love and wisdom. real love is wise and wisdom radiates love.

What we say and do can speak volumes in peoples lives. If you take the scenario were a father left the home and the children were young. This changes the life of the young one forever. This point in their lives will probably determine how they relate to men, woman, themselves, issues of self esteem and identity issues.
When a father leaves, the child could either see it as their fault and there for see it as a rejection. "My father left because he didnt love me, it's my fault..."etc. The opposite reaction could occur when the young one just decides, as a result of the father leaving, that people are mean,evil, they are not trust worthy. And in their adult life, they may grow up with bitterness and resentment. Never able to trust anyone and essential believe that they are alone in this world. Or they may grow up with identity issues, always changing who they are to please people, or even sleeping around with different men/woman to receive a sense of love, or acceptance, or being wanted.

Now all this is a result of one mans action and maybe a few words which were repeated.
So if this one negative action results in such a reaction... this says something about the power that people have. Which may be more powerful than a spiritual act.
LOVE is the most powerful of acts. The abundance of will bring life and the lack of will bring death or sense of mourning.

If the someone you love is rejecting you, or if you want to make a difference in someone's life and all your efforts are not resulting in anything much, then change your approach! Dont inflict your language or expectation on them but, learn their language of love ;)

The difference between God and Man

If you get to know God, you realise that you'd prefer Him to any other person ever.

God is love; Man is human

Communication -God knows all; Mankind assumes he knows
Have you ever been in a conversation where you felt that you weren't been understood. Felt like you weren't being herd? Sometime we have to explain the context or where we coming from before communicating what we really want to say.And by that point you've probably given up? Or maybe you say something and it's been misunderstood, taken in another way and now, you're in trouble. You feel like saying "You had to be there" or even you have to be me to understand.Be inside my head. After all, 90% of meaning is not in words (i.e. how we communicate).

With God, He already knows what happened, how that was translated to your point of view and how it affects you. So you can just start of by saying what ever you want without causing offence. "He's inside your head so He understands!

Advice - facilitate vs direction
I think it can be a male female thing sometimes. Men give advice, woman give support?

What if every human being has inside of them, the answer but doesnt know how to bring it out? Woman work on this basis. They have a conversation about the feeling, perceptions...the list goes on. When a woman speaks about her worries, she is essentially asking for support so that she can paint a picture e.g. why do i feel this way. If she wants advice she'll only ask at the end of this process, when she's ready.
I think about the people that I, as a woman, feel have given me the good advise. Or people that I hold in high regard because I feel they are somewhat wise. And also that they care more about me than the situation. They were people who listened, understood and then simply said a word. For a woman, everything matters and therefore time needs to be taken and everything considered. The same could be said about her sexual nature?

My little knowledge of the male brain when it comes to this... Im guessing the focus is on the solution. eg This is the problem, these are the solution, you should take this option.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think woman often feel that when a man gives advise, he is essentially telling you what to do. This is probably because when he asks for advise, he is essentially saying "tell me what to do".
And when a man hears a problem, his automatic response is "this is the solution". They dont like talking about it over and over again, they want to move on to the next challenge. Man are strategists. Which angle/strategy produces maximum output. The same could be said about his sexual nature?
When a man asks for advise from a woman, she often paint a picture but doesn't necessarily point out the direction or the angle.

So there is usually a conflict between the sexes
I think a man asking a woman for advise would get frustrated that she doesnt give him that definitive answer. It's more of a "trust your feelings/instincts" kinda answer.
A woman speaking to a man might feel shut down. "He didnt explore the different facets." And then the "advice" comes across as a command which she may be offended by because she may feels that she's been deceived i.e. you say it's advice but really, you're telling me what to do.

In general, in a male female relationship, if you think about parents or other couples in a healthy relationship, woman are often facilitators and men usually know what they want (vision)?

God does both. He is a balanced being when it come to this. Sometimes how you feel is more important than the solution because it exposes something about you e.g. your insecurities. And other times, you need to produce that maximum output. Timing is everything, and God knows how to deal with individuals. God facilitates and gives vision

There are so many others to speak of such as what is true or Truth, Love, Meaning... etc etc

Glossary= what I mean

God= a loving, all knowing, all powerful being that has a personality

Feel= To feel. This can be replaced with the word perceive or discern

Men vs Woman= I used extreme ends of the scale in order to make the fundamental difference but sometimes we operate like each other.

Lord I am not genius and I dont know it all. Please, Lord, help me.Love me, tell me that it will be fine. Teach me, give me your time. I know you love me, I need you more, I need to know it more. That is all I can say now, there's is nothing more to say. I am hurt and confused and maybe angry and feel on my own.Love me Lord, draw me close to you, cover me an hide me in your love

Artisans of time

I watched a film called The Soloist. I thought it a bit slow at fist but enjoyed it towards the end.
When I think of the most brilliant minds in History, they were all labeled as strange or odd or mad or crazy by the society in which they lived in. From musicians to mathematicians, to poets and philosophers. Many were rejected by society but their brilliance changed the way people operated or thought and they are still making an impact today. People like Bill Gates, Van Gogh, Beethovan, Ivan Newton, Socrates, Charles Darwin, Andy Warhol, Yeats, Jesus etc etc
It’s almost like you have to be a bit “crazy” or “abnormal” to touch those few great things that effect mankind. It’s like “madness” releases an eternal gift

Be who you are. If it’s strange and people do not understand, then that’s normal, as long as it’s directed to excellence.
The true masters and artisans of history were totally consumed with their one gift and that’s the only road they followed

the destination vs the journey

is it a male female thing? taking an extreme view...

Woman care more or are more concerned about the journey? E.g. if girls go on a night out together, getting ready together, accessorising is as much of an event as getting there. A successful night is the dancing and being silly with friends, the destination is feeling closer to each other .

Men care more or are more concerned about the destination? E.g. guys day out... lets write down a list of all the sights and go see as many as we can. A successful day is dependant on how many places we go to, or how many things we do

Woman are more concerned about the journey and men are more concerned with the destination?

process vs result. They are mutually inclusive but men and woman are polarised towards different points. This could probably be generalised even to sex. More times than not, woman care more about the process and men care more about the result. The process and the result both exist, you cant have one without the other.
If one works from the process point then the process determines the quality of the result.
If one works from the result point of view then the intended result determines the process.

Perhaps this could be further simplified as big vs small. Is it the small things that matter or is it the big things that matter.

They both matter so they both need to be involved so what's the point? I guess it depends on who you're speaking to. If I want a guy to be as excited or if I want them to recognise something as important then, I'd have to communicate with them from a result point of view e.g. when we xyz it's going to be great. And for woman, I'd appeal to the process point of view e.g. on the way there we can stop and enjoy the moment

Destiny vs character
character determines destiny
The preconceived destiny determines character

Thats the story of love

You've got to give a little, take a little,
and let your poor heart break a little.
That's the story of, that's the glory of love.

You've got to laugh a little, cry a little,
until the clouds roll by a little.
That's the story of, that's the glory of love.

As long as there's the two of us,
we've got the world and all it's charms.
And when the world is through with us,
we've got each other's arms.

You've got to win a little, lose a little,
yes, and always have the blues a little.
That's the story of, that's the glory of love.
That's the story of, that's the glory of love.

Listening is an Art

Do I listen more than I speak?
Do I advise more than I ask for advise?
Do I communicate that I understand more than assume that I understand?

"...spoken once and twice have I herd it"
Listening twice because of the two eares ;) The first time spoken is to hear, the second time herd is to understand.

There are millions of pounds spent every hour just to be herd and understood and the number is increasing every month. The psychologist/therapist etc spends 8yrs learning to understand and then spends the rest of their years listening.

It could be said that everyone wants to be understood. (I wonder if it's more true for woman). If person Y feels understood by person X, then Y will hold X in high regard, perhaps X will be the first person they look to sharing the good, the bad and the ugly etc.
It could also be said that said that everyone wants to be loved and therefore to be loved is to be understood. If one feels or perceives to be understood, then they feel or are perceived to be loved. The revers is true. When one feels misunderstood, they feel rejected and therefor dont feel unloved.

The environment of love or understanding breeds freedom and life but the opposite breeds death. Imaging life is like travelling to a foreign and distant land. You may feel that there are strangers all around. As a result, you may keep silent as no one understands the language you speak. And eventually you stop looking to make friends and end up hiding in the things that understand you e.g. music, old pictures, books, places (like the mountain top or by th stream in the valley).And one day, you hear a voice that understands you. You would get excited, jump up and it would feel like a fire just just been ignited...alive once again

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the paradox of time

A Message by George Carlin:
The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways but narrower viewpoints.
We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less.
We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time.
We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life.
We've added years to life not life to years.
We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbour.
We conquered outer space but not inner space.
We've done larger things, but not better things
We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul.
We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.
We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less.
We've learned to rush, but not to wait.
We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships.
These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.
These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.
Remember, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.
Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER: Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away

Observations...

It is interesting to read that Woman was created to be a helpmate but after the fall not only did her name change but a few things happened. (Gen3:16)
1. She will bear children with intense pain and suffering
2. Her desire will be for her husband
3. Her husband will be master over her

It is also interesting to ask the question... were these three things the curse of the fall?

So after the fall, the natural state of She was the desire to please her husband 1Cor7:34. )But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. -wanting to please your spouse)

You see it all the time, when She rushes home to see him. She makes sure that there is food that he likes (she might even stop cooking her favourites), and through the relationship, he communicates what he likes and she remembers it, he becomes a sports fan and she follows suit, etc etc Her day to day life involves taking note of his desires. (I imagine that every woman agrees to this)

And then,looking at point no.3, he became master over her. Eph5:22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. But even before the fall he, was the head or the leader, given the word to take care of the ground etc and she was to help him.
It's important to note that to help someone is to look and see what they need, put all the things you want to do aside and concentrate your energies at the "help". It's interesting that Adam didnt necessarily know that he needed help but it wasnt good for him to be alone, he needed help.

Side note... If you tell someone to do something it means that they are not doing it. If they are not doing it, it is possible that it is not their nature to do so. Therefore they have to constantly remind themselves?
For example, Woman are told several times to be submissive and men are told several times to love her. The language of She is LOVE and the language of Him is HONOUR. My guess is that subconsciously, woman give love over and over again in order to receive love and men give honour over and over again in order to receive honour.
Naturally we give what we want to get back

Did Jesus ever argue? Does arguing have a value to it? Are there different levels of arguing?

When something happens to us, like an argument with a stranger or with a friend. Do we assume that there is something wrong with that person who just doesn’t understand and therefore we label them stupid, foolish, arogant, he's got issues... etc

Or do we take a moment and look at ourselves and how we reacted, perhaps provoked the response. Do we ask ourselves what we should do next time.

I guess it depends of your belief system. I strongly believe that anybody can be talked over. I believe that there is a language that breaks defences of others leaving them defenceless. As cheesy as it sounds, this would be the language of love ;)

So, in my communication, I either communicate love/care/understanding which leaves people defenceless or I communicate the opposite of that which is "I don’t care" you do your thing and I do mine, we are not connected.

I believe there is a way that gets what it wants. It gets the right reaction all the time. It sounds really manipulative but only works when it is perceived as genuine.
Do I say certain things because I want my way or do I really care about your feelings too?

Did Jesus ever argue? He mastered the skill of the "love language". People came to him with an agenda and they walked away feeling challenged about their own lives, he pretty much left them speechless. He knew peoples motives and cared about them and then communicated in a way they understood. E.g. the general, the rich man, the accusers who used religious language... he responded to them in their language. He answered a question with a question and the only people he offended were the Pharisees because they thought they were God and prevented people from knowing God.

In terms of arguing, yes you pick your battles. Did Jesus ever argue? Does arguing have a value to it. Are there different levels of arguing?
There is arguing were there is a cross fire of bullets. This is only going to escalate. The only way out or to peace is to create a timeout. I don’t think this is beneficial.
And then there is a type of arguing, it's not really arguing, it's just a persistence to put your point of view in that manner which will be most effective. E.g. a camel through a key hole vs. a brood of viper or driving out the den of robbers. In all these situations, He is straight forward to the point and pretty much just says a maximum of two sentences.

Is there a value to arguing? I think there is a value to communicating different point of views. And people communicating them as honest and fully as they feel about them without personally offending the other party e.g. I think your idea is stupid. But to make them feel respected but challenging the idea e.g. so you think that this is the ultimate truth, why, but don’t you think that means that xyz, that's like saying xyz

Woman. Claws out. ready to attack

Have you ever noticed that naturally, women are like cats, always with their claws out ready to attack? When I say naturally or by nature, I mean, before the state of enlightenment i.e. before dealing with insecurities, identity, self worth etc

Imagine going to a party etc. girls are always eyeing each other with these catty vibes.
You know that look up then down etc trying to make you feel small or to let you know some “things”. And there is no reason for doing this, it’s not like there is a guy that they are both trying to lure (remove the guy from the situation). Or think about a club, girls are always looking down on each other. Or they might do it with a smile or a little grin. It’s like there’s a grand competition.

Woman vs. woman.

You see this everywhere. The competition is also seen when woman compare each other “she’s fat/thin… she’s such an attention seeker… my outfit is finer… she’s such a snob… who does she think she is..."
All these judgments are made from a point of looking at ones self and making a comparison and can be made from a place of insecurity. Like the previous post noted, “project their insecurities onto other women”

And the bridge is friendship. With girlfriends, it’s the opposite. You’re never fat or ugly or annoying, you always dressing each other up so you both look hott.

It’s easier for woman to tear each other down than to build each other up. On the point of “nature”… It is more natural to find fault than it is to complement.

A real friend would never put herself in the position of being a potential “other woman”. Why?... because your happiness is hers. There is a connection. In a way, one could say that her friend is a part of her so it doesn’t make sense to hurt herself.

What I’m trying to say is that as woman, we are not united. We see ourselves as separate from each other and therefore what I take from you, doesn’t harm me, further more, I win the competition i.e. “he wants me more”… “I must be prettier”… etc etc and that’s not really the reality (see the previous post)

The truth is what you do affects me, and what I do affects you.
Looking a the scenario from the previous post, the bastard or fatherless child is being supported by our taxes and closer to home could grow up to be a thief and come knocking at your door and mess things up or end up doing the same to your daughter. It’s all a vicious circle.

What we do to each other determines the core of our society, our beliefs on what is wrong or right, my perceived right vs. justice, how people should be treated etc. In the end, an extreme scenario of continuing this way, we all become the other woman, bitter and broken, the fatherless children grow up to hate the opposite sex violating them… imagine the chaos!

I see the whole idea of “the other woman” as a society thing i.e. the “natural” way we relate to each other. Our claws are out.
I ask myself the question, how many woman do I build up? Especially when I see them for the first time. If I’m not building up, I am tearing down. No action is the same as tearing down.
But this can only be done from a “good, solid, and secure” place. The idea of the bridge I mentioned earlier. From recognizing that we are connected, at the worst, I’ll just have more conversation, real chats, less superficial stuff

"The year is 2009 and we still fighting the same war our mothers fought....RESPECT...

What possesses a woman to betray another woman in such a distasteful and unladylike manner?It all starts with how u feel about yourself, what you know your worth and what you willing to stand for and not stand for. Women like these lack a sense of self respect and thus project their insecurities onto other women. We are all quick to blame the man? When it comes to sex, we are manipulative, conniving demonic vixens. We ignorant to the fact that we own the most powerful tool that any human being can have between their legs. A Virgina. How many men will turn down an opportunity to have sex with a woman who is more than willing to have sex with them too? If men didn’t have anyone to cheat with, then who would they subject they mindless penis’s to? And then when the woman comes after you, you have the oddesity to tell her that her man was after you. And had you just kept your “lips” shut maybe one lucky child would have a father to wake up to every morning and a stable environment to grow up in. When a 3rd person enters a marriage or committed relationship, you don’t only mess with the covenant in place. 1. You convert a prominent union into nothing but a mere insult, 2. A strong woman into a weak girl and 3.you divide a family into two. How do u expect a woman to raise her kids, when she is still trying to deal with the heart ache the father has caused her, how do u expect her to be a good mother to her kids. How do u expect her to explain to them one day why she left their father, because he was too weak to say no to a woman who dangled her most dangerous weapon to their father?You may think that you’re still young and that if his woman doesn't satisfy him, then u will in return for 3 months of a shopping spree? You forget that u put yourself and his wife at the risk of contracting H.I.V AIDS, as u can rest assured that you are not the only woman he is tossing salads with. You forget that you could fall pregnant and your bastard baby will have nothing but a mother who lacks confident and thus is unable to raise her own. This only creates a problem for us as South African citizens as we have to pay tax to ensure that your bastard baby has a meal when he finally gets to prison.When I first met my boyfriend, he was involved with a girl that he choose to refer to their relationship as “nothing serious” .I made it clear from our first meeting of conversation that if this woman was really nothing to him, then it would only be right that she knew of how he felt before he could pursue me any further. I mean how many of us would rather be kept in the dark rather than knowing that the guy u are with now has no interest in being with you and that it was only a matter of time before he left you in any case.I truly believe that “the same way u got him, is the same way u will lose him” what makes u think u can fill the void that his woman couldn't fill. The fact that u are cuter, thinner and smarter (smart wouldn't play a role, as smart people dun act this way) will not guarantee u a life with him free of his infidelities. There is nothing different between your virgina and the next woman’s one, they are all the same.I look at my peers and hear them speak so loosely about their infidelities with married men and committed men, it doesn’t seem to amaze me why women have babies and can either not pin point the father or wont point the father coz he belongs to the family next door.I don’t want to have to keep my man indoors in fear that you will hound him and capture him like a worthless dog, take all his worth and send him back home for me with his tail wagging between his tail for me to pick up the pieces. I have a life I’m trying to build a life for my partner and I and should we decide to have kids, them too. I don’t need to feel insecure every time you walk past my man, I don’t need to be calling up my girls in the middle of the night crying coz he’s not home yet. I don’t need to be packing my bags at night and leaving behind the life I have worked so hard for because he’s out wining and dining u. I don’t need to be fighting with him over maintance issues because your spending my Childs life savings on your Louis Vuittion purse. (I pay for the luxuries you flaunt) I don’t need to be seeing a psychologist because I had invested so much in my life and your lazy, uneducated selfish heart has shattered my world and I don’t know how to start over.What I do need is your friendship, your shoulder to cry on when he has hurt me and I have nothing left, your heart to be sincere and open to my pain and happiness. I need you to be my eyes when I cant see, to show me right from wrong when I’m lost. I need you to be my sister. Even if we won’t be best friends I need you to be on my side as I am on yours."

Peace Refiloe and Amanda

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this world system

"G20 protesters break into Royal Bank of Scotland"
-01/04/09

Yesterday, when I saw this on the news, I kinda felt sad for the banks. I was hoping that the protestors didn’t take it as far as breaking into the bank... i.e. no violence. but today. I tell you, my mind has changed. This world is evil. It’s out to get every last possible penny and it doesn’t give a damn. Why? Cause we are just a number. Not a life, not a person, just a number and numbers don’t count until there are a significant number of them. i.e. it takes 20 people to die in an NHS hospital in order for the number to be a cause of care, more like worry for themselves. Even if 500 people is less than 1% of the big number, they don’t count. They have to die or kill or break into banks to be noticed. I don’t know what people running this expect… for people to just payout for their indulgence?
Fair enough we have to pay tax but then they increase the price of fuel, road tax, central charging zones, £40- £70 parking fine, increase in transportation fares and then at the end of it when one can’t pay, they put interest on his outstandings, and force his hand, take him to court, then keep him in the records like he’s a criminal. Now how is the average person supposed to feel when he is been treated like less of a person i.e. a criminal. He becomes one and it’s not his fault? Everyman has a sense of justice firing in his heart and when he knows that he has been treated unfairly, he wants to do something, something big. Something that says, “hey, you dont just treat me like this and get away with it.”
I have no sympathy for these organisations or the way they run, The System. To the point where I could liken the riots against the banks (who would’ve had a day off anyway and are probably on holiday), I’d liken their action against the banks with a hungry, more like starving man who steals a banana from the supermarket. Is it not evil to throw him into prison?

In the end, the supermarket gives the starving man a job. Starving man sweats and spends all his time making money for the supermarket who then intern only give him enough to stay alive, just enough not to ask for what is rightfully his, a decent amount to take home with him.
Nothing really happens to the big guys. They always get away with their big pensions. The people who get hurt are the employees. The riots only end up hurting the employees. The person who’s trying to make a dollar out of 2 sence. The only people who loose anything are the “starving men”. The patients who die in hospitals; the nurses who are sick at home because of stress, deprecation etc; the frustrations of teenagers who’s parents don’t have the time/opportunity to be an example and their kids resorting to knife crime; the employees fired for the losses corporations make from money making schemes that rely on putting people in more dept.
There is no justice in this world. It’s the perfect “World System”, it only works for the system, not the people.

Vindicate the weak and fatherless; Do justice to the
afflicted and destitute
Defend weak people and orphans. Protect
the rights of the oppressed and the poor
Defend the poor and
fatherless: do justice to the afflicted and needy