the more you try, the more you fail

growing up you always hear people saying just be yourself. what does that mean... dont try be any one else. how do people know that you're trying to be someone else? because you're "trying". People have a sense of what is authentic and what is not.

So the advise is stop trying to be someone that you're not and just relax in a way, and be yourself. I remember being with people who are always trying to be funny or cool or your best friend or something their not and it gets so annoying. To the point of wanting to pull a hair out or just simply avoiding them totally. the alternative would be too mean

i think when it comes to people, it's best not to try! just be yourself and let thing grow or happen at an organic level.

it's a bit or a viscous cycle...

the more you try, the more you fail. the more you fail, the harder you try. the harder you try............YOU FAIL

until one day their an immovable force and you cant try. and you therefore give up trying; give yourself up to the situation. allowing and not forcing; allowing and not controlling; allowing and not calculative.