There are different types of leaders.
Jesus is an interesting fella'. He know what was "the way" -the vision, He knew the time scale, and He had people who didnt know the vision or the time scale. The people were just drawn to Him, His personality and perhaps, they liked how they felt when they were around Him. There was something about His personality that drew men unto Him. They just wanted to be around Him.
And then He inspires them to do what they dont understand, perhaps dont want to do. E.g. Jesus at the well talking to the Samaritan woman, the disciples were not pleased so Jesus had to talk to her when they werent around. Jesus basically inspires the people around Him to do what they dont want to do. How does He do that?? I believe because of His leadership style. It was a relational one and He made them feel a certain way about themselves which caused them to be inspired to greatness. He served them, He showed them that He regarded them, told them secrets that He wouldnt tell everyone. In summary, His love towards them inspired them to be great leaders, even after Jesus died and ascended. Because of the relationship they had with Jesus, the were inspired to work out the vision to such an extent they they were ready to die for it and indeed, did die because of it. Is it love, affirmation, belief in them, taking the time to demonstrate the He didnt matter that much by, firtsly kneeling before them and secondly, washing their feet. He believed in them more then they believed in themselves. My sister said the same thing about her driving instructor and know she has the confidence or is secure in herself in this regard.

I guess the way of the word and probably all humans lead in a forceful, I tell you what to do, it's about the destination not the journey, the means to an end, either your in or you out kinda way. it's not very relational. I guess if someone pays you then you essentially agree to just doing what they tell you. This is not leadership, it's just doing a job. A leader inspires and that takes a relationship of care.. To be a leader is to engage the hearts and minds of people.